Neither party is wrong. If your spouse transitions and you arent attracted to that gender, then get a divorce. Its pretty simple. Her spouse isnt wrong for transitioning and shes not wrong for wanting a divorce because shes not into women. Itll just be better for everyone to split
genderfluid person here! her feelings are absolutely valid! it’s not transphobic to lose attraction to someone if they transition to a gender that is not your romantic or sexual preference. in this case, it is most certainly not coming from a malicious or hateful place, so there isn’t anything bad about it.
Look guys. The husband isnt the same person that the wife married. The husband changed him self to a her. The wife didnt fell for a her. She fell for a him. So its obvious the wife will not be attracted to that person. Like what is the problem of the people in the comments. Saying the wife is transphobic. The wife in that moment is in a grieving process. Figuratively the person she loved died. And was changed into something else. In the length of time that she knew him was long. And her brain can't accept what was transpiring yet.
As a transfem I think it’s okay to not be attracted to your now-wife-soon-to-be-not-wife. Only thing I think is odd is the way she keeps misgendering her. It could be shock, but it’s still odd.
She isnt attracted to women, so her attraction to the person she knew as her husband is gone. No problem with that if they both keep respecting eachother.
The women shouldn't stay with the other person, obviously. If they aren't happy with that being the case, it only makes sense for them to find their happiness in someone who wants to be a man
U can still very much has a chance at being very good friends of co parent in this situation, but nah divorce is comepletely normal. Im a trans woman and if i transitioned after marrying a straight girl id expect her to divorce me too. Talk to them, see if yall can figure out a good plan if yall have kids or just remain friends, and if ur up to it, provide each other some support while going through an amicable divorce
My personal opinion is if MY bf was to transition i would first off be surprised but then secondly if he still loved me i would still love him/her. but im also bi so i mean that helps.
I mean if the caller's husband wants to transition to female thats up to her, but I dont blame the caller for not wanting to stick with her through and after it.
You wouldn't want your kid/kids to be raised arround mental sick person now would you? No one will judge you for leaving him, just tell people that you wanted to avoid your makeup and tampoons be stolen.
My best friend is a trans woman (mtf) and she went through a similar situation with a girl she was dating. It was hard for my friend to comprehend what happened if she did anything wrong and she didn’t. It’s a life choice. I don’t have a single problem with my best friend transitioning mtf but I do understand where this woman is coming from. It’s a big step that many may not understand fully and I respect that this woman is not ok my being married to her husband that is making that transition. She would get judged and all that and that’s hard to accept. I’m sorry that woman had to go through that bc it’s tough to lose someone you love. But it’s also good to acknowledge what’s happening if you are open minded like I am.
As a trans man (one of many in this comment section) she’s totally right- if I married a man and identified as a women, came out to him as trans or the other way around, their right to not be attracted to me anymore, the women is right.
Her husband should face jail time for this. It is genuinely in same that you can break up a 7 year relationship without and repercussions just because people brainwashed you into believing you can change genders
Its totally fine to not be atracted to HER anymore not everyone is lesbian or lgbt but its lowk offensive and disrespectful thats shes still calling Her, He/him and refering to her as her husband
Obviously she can't help not being attracted to this person anymore. I'm definitely not judging her for that. But wasn't the reason because her partner was going through a transition? You can of course have preferences and cannot help your sexuality but everyone continued to misgender the trans women through this video?? What the fuck?
She’s obviously not ready for the change but I think she’s trying to hold on to what she’s built. It would be hard to see someone everyday when they aren’t the person you knew.
As a trans man, maybe my interpretation holds some weight lol.
I think it’s less about the fact that their partner is trans, and more about misinterpreting the type of love they felt for their partner. I do it all the time because I’m autistic, so after a while I’ve kinda become hyper aware of what kind of feelings I feel about people. Lots of people can be attracted to other’s looks and physique, and while it sounds superficial, lots of people get married like that because their personalities also blend well. Not well enough to result in a marriage on its own, however. Lots of people love in lots of different ways, so it’s important to pay attention to how you love someone else. Before seriously committing to someone, you should ask yourself if you’re ready to stay with them no matter what. When that question isn’t even a question, just an overwhelming yes, that’s how you know that person is right for you.
First of all, the transphobes in this comment section are hilarious. Why are you mad she's transgender? It doesn't affect you 😂 Second of all, no one is in the wrong. I'll put it plain and simple. She's not attracted to women, and her partner is coming out, rightfully so. Misgendering her partner the entire video is questionable though.
i hope despite everything they can be friends. and I hope she finds a man who will give her endless passion for the rest of her life. They both deserve happiness even if its not with each other
it's ok to not feel attracted to her after she transitions. you cannot help your attracted to men only, and she cannot help that she realized she's a girl. it's ok to seperate and try to live your best lives
i feel thst she has the most appropriate reaction to that situation. She is not lashing out at her partner. She still cares about them and their feelings. But shes having a hard time letting go and thats so understandable the poor woman is mourning that love. Its so painful, to watch love die out over change. Especially when you do care about that person. I hope she was able to figure it out and they are both living happy lives.
Look i think its clear she doesn't actually have a problem woth her "husband" being trans i think its pretty clear zhes more in shock and denial because her marriage is over and honestly i would expect anyone to be like that
I get devorcing someone cus it’s not there anymore but damn can they just stop misgendering this person. It’s not that hard and it makes it seem like there’s something else nefarious to it.
I'd honestly rather have my partner break up with me than stay in a relationship with me where they think of me as the opposite gender of what i see myself as
As a lesbian, WHY are y’all getting mad at this woman?? She can’t help that she’s not attracted to women, the same way I can’t help that I’m not attracted to men. If my gf decided to transition into being a man I’d break it off with her too. No one’s “in the wrong”, this is just a difficult situation. And for the people getting mad at the husband, like I said before, SHE CANT HELP THAT SHES A WOMAN.
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Neither party is wrong. If your spouse transitions and you arent attracted to that gender, then get a divorce. Its pretty simple. Her spouse isnt wrong for transitioning and shes not wrong for wanting a divorce because shes not into women. Itll just be better for everyone to split
What is happening to this world😢people are literally changing their gender! There are only 2 genders and that's it
genderfluid person here! her feelings are absolutely valid! it’s not transphobic to lose attraction to someone if they transition to a gender that is not your romantic or sexual preference. in this case, it is most certainly not coming from a malicious or hateful place, so there isn’t anything bad about it.
Look guys. The husband isnt the same person that the wife married. The husband changed him self to a her. The wife didnt fell for a her. She fell for a him. So its obvious the wife will not be attracted to that person. Like what is the problem of the people in the comments. Saying the wife is transphobic. The wife in that moment is in a grieving process. Figuratively the person she loved died. And was changed into something else. In the length of time that she knew him was long. And her brain can't accept what was transpiring yet.
As a transfem I think it’s okay to not be attracted to your now-wife-soon-to-be-not-wife. Only thing I think is odd is the way she keeps misgendering her. It could be shock, but it’s still odd.
She isnt attracted to women, so her attraction to the person she knew as her husband is gone. No problem with that if they both keep respecting eachother.
W woman. Leave that mentally fucked up dude😂
The women shouldn't stay with the other person, obviously. If they aren't happy with that being the case, it only makes sense for them to find their happiness in someone who wants to be a man
U can still very much has a chance at being very good friends of co parent in this situation, but nah divorce is comepletely normal. Im a trans woman and if i transitioned after marrying a straight girl id expect her to divorce me too. Talk to them, see if yall can figure out a good plan if yall have kids or just remain friends, and if ur up to it, provide each other some support while going through an amicable divorce
I mean I just wish there was more respectful for the trans woman in the video, aka using the correct pronouns
My personal opinion is if MY bf was to transition i would first off be surprised but then secondly if he still loved me i would still love him/her. but im also bi so i mean that helps.
The thing that sucks is that most folks will cry and say shes not being supportive
Humanity is ruined…
I mean if the caller's husband wants to transition to female thats up to her, but I dont blame the caller for not wanting to stick with her through and after it.
You wouldn't want your kid/kids to be raised arround mental sick person now would you? No one will judge you for leaving him, just tell people that you wanted to avoid your makeup and tampoons be stolen.
Im kind of annoyed that they keep referring to a woman as "he" and "husband"
My best friend is a trans woman (mtf) and she went through a similar situation with a girl she was dating. It was hard for my friend to comprehend what happened if she did anything wrong and she didn’t. It’s a life choice. I don’t have a single problem with my best friend transitioning mtf but I do understand where this woman is coming from. It’s a big step that many may not understand fully and I respect that this woman is not ok my being married to her husband that is making that transition. She would get judged and all that and that’s hard to accept. I’m sorry that woman had to go through that bc it’s tough to lose someone you love. But it’s also good to acknowledge what’s happening if you are open minded like I am.
. . . . Is this song an entire diss on the bull that gen z started? 🤣
As a trans man (one of many in this comment section) she’s totally right- if I married a man and identified as a women, came out to him as trans or the other way around, their right to not be attracted to me anymore, the women is right.
her. not him.
Im happy she’s trying to make it work but if your suffering in a marriage leave!
Her husband should face jail time for this. It is genuinely in same that you can break up a 7 year relationship without and repercussions just because people brainwashed you into believing you can change genders
wasnt it literally said that theyre great friends and she just. isnt attracted to women? this sounds reasonable.
it’s not transphobic or homophobic to not be attracted to someone. it’s simply not going to work out and that’s okay.
She is transphobic, period. I understand that it may be hard. But girl have atleast some freaking respect and stop misgentering HER.
Its totally fine to not be atracted to HER anymore not everyone is lesbian or lgbt but its lowk offensive and disrespectful thats shes still calling Her, He/him and refering to her as her husband
Obviously she can't help not being attracted to this person anymore. I'm definitely not judging her for that. But wasn't the reason because her partner was going through a transition? You can of course have preferences and cannot help your sexuality but everyone continued to misgender the trans women through this video?? What the fuck?
But you cant be unattractive to your wife for getting fat???? Whats up with this guy????
Did they just erase part of the road? Why is noone talking about it?
She’s obviously not ready for the change but I think she’s trying to hold on to what she’s built. It would be hard to see someone everyday when they aren’t the person you knew.
As a trans man, maybe my interpretation holds some weight lol.
I think it’s less about the fact that their partner is trans, and more about misinterpreting the type of love they felt for their partner. I do it all the time because I’m autistic, so after a while I’ve kinda become hyper aware of what kind of feelings I feel about people. Lots of people can be attracted to other’s looks and physique, and while it sounds superficial, lots of people get married like that because their personalities also blend well. Not well enough to result in a marriage on its own, however. Lots of people love in lots of different ways, so it’s important to pay attention to how you love someone else. Before seriously committing to someone, you should ask yourself if you’re ready to stay with them no matter what. When that question isn’t even a question, just an overwhelming yes, that’s how you know that person is right for you.
First of all, the transphobes in this comment section are hilarious. Why are you mad she's transgender? It doesn't affect you 😂 Second of all, no one is in the wrong. I'll put it plain and simple. She's not attracted to women, and her partner is coming out, rightfully so. Misgendering her partner the entire video is questionable though.
I’m so happy this guy was able to give this woman proper advice without any little sprinkles of transphobia like most people I see would
The comments = 100% people defending her, 0% people judging her
all the comments are "why is everyone mad at her" and yet no one is mad at her. nearly everyone in these comments is having a schizo moment.
Someone give me the og account name please 🙏🙏
I agree her no longer being attracted to her former husband isn’t transphobic but the misgendering and constantly calling her a him kinda is.
i hope despite everything they can be friends. and I hope she finds a man who will give her endless passion for the rest of her life. They both deserve happiness even if its not with each other
Were not transphobic, the trans are phobic of us, and Gods power.
it's ok to not feel attracted to her after she transitions. you cannot help your attracted to men only, and she cannot help that she realized she's a girl. it's ok to seperate and try to live your best lives
i feel thst she has the most appropriate reaction to that situation. She is not lashing out at her partner. She still cares about them and their feelings. But shes having a hard time letting go and thats so understandable the poor woman is mourning that love. Its so painful, to watch love die out over change. Especially when you do care about that person. I hope she was able to figure it out and they are both living happy lives.
god forbid a woman be straight and not attracted to women
Look i think its clear she doesn't actually have a problem woth her "husband" being trans i think its pretty clear zhes more in shock and denial because her marriage is over and honestly i would expect anyone to be like that
I get devorcing someone cus it’s not there anymore but damn can they just stop misgendering this person. It’s not that hard and it makes it seem like there’s something else nefarious to it.
I'd honestly rather have my partner break up with me than stay in a relationship with me where they think of me as the opposite gender of what i see myself as
Why did she call a random podcaster
Cant believe he would do this to his wife
As a lesbian, WHY are y’all getting mad at this woman?? She can’t help that she’s not attracted to women, the same way I can’t help that I’m not attracted to men. If my gf decided to transition into being a man I’d break it off with her too. No one’s “in the wrong”, this is just a difficult situation. And for the people getting mad at the husband, like I said before, SHE CANT HELP THAT SHES A WOMAN.