My husband and I have been married for almost 14 years, and we were together for more than six years before that.
Even now, we still make a real effort to keep that spark in our relationship. We set aside time just for us, without the kids. Sometimes we do things we both love, and other times we take turns doing something one of us enjoys more.
We call these our date nights. Once or twice a week, we block off an evening just for the two of us, usually after the kids go to bed. We try to plan it on a night when we can sleep in the next day, so we can stay up late and actually enjoy a few uninterrupted hours together.
The most important part is that we protect that time. What we do doesn’t matter as much as the fact that we’re together, focused on each other. That’s what makes it work and what keeps our marriage strong.
Most of our date nights are simple and low cost. Over time, we’ve realized that it’s not about spending money, it’s about spending time together. Sure, going out to a nice restaurant is fun once in a while, but some of our favorite nights have been the simplest ones at home.
A lot of our date nights happen at home, mostly because we have kids. Going out usually means finding a babysitter, which adds cost and planning. Staying in just makes things easier.
Over the years, I’ve kept a list of the different date nights we’ve tried. Some we repeat often, others we tweak a bit, but they all come back to the same thing.
These nights help us stay connected. Not because every idea is special, but because we show up for each other and spend that time together.
I hope you find a few ideas here that you’ll want to try too.
Movie Night at Home
We’ll make a big bowl of popcorn and watch a movie or binge a series together under a blanket. This is our go-to date night because it’s so easy after a long day.
One of us handles bedtime while the other picks something to watch, makes the popcorn, and grabs a couple of blankets. Then we meet on the couch, settle in, and just relax together for a few hours. It’s simple, but it always feels like a reset.
Late Night Walk Together
On nights when the kids are sleeping over at friends’ houses, we take the chance to go for a long walk together. We’ll wander through the neighborhood and sometimes head a bit further out where it’s quieter, just the two of us under the night sky.
Most of the time, we’re just talking about life, random thoughts, or whatever comes up. It’s simple, but those conversations end up meaning a lot.
Baking Something Together
Sometimes we’ll make a simple treat together like cookies, bread, or scones for the next morning. We pull out the ingredients, talk while we mix everything, and let it bake while we hang out in the kitchen.
When it’s done, we’ll usually share a warm piece right away. It gives us time to talk, do something together, and enjoy something we made side by side.
Hike and Picnic Date
When we have some time without the kids, this is our default date.
We’ll pack a simple lunch in the morning, throw it in a backpack, and head to a nearby park or trail. We usually check ahead to find a nice spot to sit, whether it’s a bench, a table, or just a quiet place where we can lay out a blanket.
We take our time on the walk, talking and enjoying the scenery. Once we reach our spot, we sit down and share the meal together, then slowly make our way back. It’s one of those dates that feels like a full reset without costing much at all.
Working on a Creative Project Together
Every now and then, we’ll spend an evening working on something creative together. Not long ago, we sat down and drew a big city map for a game we play with the kids.
We went back and forth between planning streets and buildings and just talking about life. It ended up being one of our favorite nights in a long time.
We’ve done similar things before too, like painting small figures or sketching ideas. It gives us something to focus on while still having space to talk, and those conversations always end up being the best part.
Free Concert in the Park
Every now and then, there’s a free concert in our town or nearby, and we love taking advantage of it.
We’ll pack a simple picnic, grab a blanket, and head out for the evening. We sit together, eat, and listen to the music while the sun goes down.
By the time the stars come out, it just feels like one of those easy, perfect nights without spending much at all.
Board Games and a Glass of Wine
Sometimes we’ll open a bottle of wine and pull out a board game. We’ll play a few rounds, talk, laugh, and just enjoy being a little silly together.
It’s relaxed and easy, and somehow those simple nights end up being the most fun.
Reading Together on the Couch
We both love reading, so some nights we’ll just grab a big blanket, sit close on the couch, and each dive into our own book. It’s quiet, cozy, and still feels like time spent together.
Every now and then we’ll pause to share something we read or just enjoy the calm of it.
Quiet Night on the Porch
Some nights we’ll sit out on the back porch with soft music playing and a bottle of wine between us.
It’s similar to our board game nights, just slower and quieter. We talk about life, random thoughts, and whatever comes up, all while enjoying the calm and being together.
Tackling a Small Project Together
Every now and then, we’ll pick a small home task and do it together. It might be fixing something, patching a wall, or repairing one of the kids’ toys.
We figure it out as we go, with one of us taking the lead and the other helping out. It’s not glamorous, but it feels good to get something done side by side.
Doing Something Active Together
Sometimes we’ll do something active, like playing a casual game of tennis. There’s a park nearby with a court, so we’ll head over and just hit the ball back and forth, laughing at our bad shots more than anything else. It’s nothing serious, just a fun way to move and spend time together.
A lot of times, we’ll pair it with a walk afterward, especially in the evening. It’s a simple way to get out, clear our heads, and enjoy each other’s company.
Touring Open Houses for Fun
Every now and then, we’ll dress up a bit and go check out an open house, especially if it’s a really nice home. It’s fun to walk through and see how everything is designed, even if we’re not actually buying.
Most of the time, it turns into us talking about what we like and don’t like, from layouts to small details. It ends up being a surprisingly fun way to spend time together and dream a little about what we’d want in a home one day.
Going Geocaching Together
Sometimes we’ll go geocaching, especially when the weather is nice. It’s something we often do with the kids, but we enjoy it just as much on our own. We’ll look up a few nearby spots and head out to find them.
It turns into a small adventure every time. Even places we’ve seen before feel different when you’re searching for something hidden. It’s a fun way to explore, move around a bit, and spend time together without overthinking it.
Backyard Fire and Marshmallows
On cooler evenings, we’ll light a small fire in the backyard and roast marshmallows together. We both help get the fire going, then pull out a couple of chairs and sit close, watching the flames and just slowing down for a bit.
We’ll roast a few marshmallows, share them, and talk while the fire crackles in the background. It’s one of those simple nights that feels really calm and easy.
Building a Blanket Fort
This might sound a bit ridiculous, but it’s honestly one of the most fun nights we’ve had. We’ll grab every blanket in the house and turn part of the living room into a big blanket fort.
We sit inside with flashlights, fix spots when it starts falling apart, and just laugh like kids again. It’s silly, but that’s exactly what makes it so good.
Cooking a Themed Dinner Night
Every now and then, we’ll pick a theme and cook a full dinner around it. It could be Italian, Mexican, or even something we’ve never tried before. We’ll split the tasks, put on some music that matches the vibe, and figure it out as we go.
It turns into more than just cooking. We’re talking, tasting, adjusting things, and laughing when something doesn’t go as planned. Then we sit down and enjoy the meal together, knowing we made it side by side.
Looking Through Old Photos and Memories
Some nights we’ll pull out old photos or scroll through pictures on our phones. We’ll sit together and go through trips, holidays, and random moments we forgot about.
It usually turns into stories, laughter, and remembering things we haven’t talked about in years. It’s simple, but it brings back a lot of good feelings and reminds us how much we’ve been through together.
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